Research: 11/15 Maintaining Relationships Through Communication: Relational, Contextual, and Cultural Variations

Source:
Daniel J. Canary, Marianne Dainton, "Maintaining Relationships Through Communication: Relational, Contextual, and Cultural Variations", Routledge, Jan 30, 2003 - Language Arts & Disciplines.

My Thesis:
In order to love someone successfully, you should keep these two terms: to keep pace with your lover, and to communicate constantly with him.

What I hope to learn from this source:
I hoped to find any facts to support my opinion more scholarly: communication constantly with significant one is important. Fortunately I found a book named 'Maintaining Relationships Through Communication: Relational, Contextual, and Cultural Variations', highlighting the importance of conversation in maintaining relationship.

Notes:
In the work, Kathryn Dindia, one of the contributors, said that "to maintain a relationship, partners must communicate with one another... The end of the relationship occurs when people stop communicating... Communication is central to relationship maintenance."
It focused on the study of Kaplan, arguing the importance of communication. Kaplan(1975/1965) argued that "relationship partners need to understand what happens between them. Both individuals need to know what they think, feel, and expects of them."

Excerpts from the book:

Kaplan (1975/1976) listed two global and polar-opposite types of maintenance behaviors relevant to these three functions of relational maintenance. Maintenance-by-expression occurs when partners verbalize their feelings, their observations of the relationship, and the regulation of the interaction between them... Maintenance-by-suppression occurs when any direct discussion of mutual feelings, view of the relationship, or efforts to carry on in an orderly fashion is suppressed... Kaplan (1975/1976) argued that expressive maintenance is better able to sustain relationships of high involvement over time than maintenance-by-suppression. According to Kaplan, "expressive maintenance provides a way of preserving a strong emotional bond and, in general, promotes closeness and satisfaction in relationship" (p. 301).

Final Thoughts:
Let's take a look at my refutation.