Second Draft Confirmation

Relationship is not formed only with passion and love of either only one side, and the absence of communication and care toward each other exacerbates it. Love for one another should be done at the same time, and if it does not pass to each other, relationship cannot be developed into a preferred relationship.
The problem is that people do not love each other at the same time. They tend to believe that they are in love with one another in the contemporary period. Of course, it is just illusion. In accordance with Einstein’s “Theory of Relativity”, as I mentioned, two events, simultaneous for one observer, may not be simultaneous for another observer if the observers are in relative motion(Relativity of simultaneity). The phenomenon is related to time dilation, in which moving clocks are measured to tick more slowly than an observer's "stationary" clock. And in his vision of the universe, the laws of physics are the same for all observers in uniform motion relative to one another(principle of relativity).
Let's apply this theoretical information to the romantic relationship. When it is applied on actual practical life, it emphasizes the necessity of keeping pace with each other. The 'pace' here can be applied on anything in real life. Starting from speed of a physical step, to the rate of all mental communion, to the timing of marriage and sex, in each field, if either one is faster or cannot keep up with the speed of the other side, their love is unable to be present at the same time anymore. Misaligned love flows the parallel line, and the arrow of love toward each other can not reach them.
Let's take a look at the lyrics accentuating the importance of keeping pace with one another.

I know that you've been calling me / And I'm happy that we met

Don't think that I'm not interested / I'm just playing hard to get

So much about this crazy game they call love / That I'm trying to understand

so could you be my best friend / Before you call yourself my man

Why can't I love you in slow motion / Take my time

Take away the pressure on my mind / Really get to know you

But rewind / Wanna love you in slow motion / Why can't I

You seem to know just what you want / And I like your confidence

Some things a girl should never rush / Cause if you do you hurt yourself

. . .

I'm too young for tears in the night / And it's too soon for this to be right

Don't wanna mess with your pride / The question is not when but why

. . .

- 'slow motion', by Karina(First Love, 2008.09.02).

But how to keep pace with the significant other? In other words, how can I know my partner's pace before conflict? The answer, of course, is continuous communication. When sticking to only the self-righteous opinions of themselves in the absence of interaction the difference between the rate of each other occurs, which would violate their time zone. Just as Peter Neidig, who has a master's degree in social work(M.S.W.), said that "honest dialogue that reveals his deep inner changes the situation", dialogue is necessary for the successful continuation of the relation and accounts for a significant proportion. In this sense, the challenge given to all couples is to know how to do appropriate conversation and practice it.

Many people have accentuated the necessity of interaction with the significant others. Psychologists stay that the intoxicating feeling of being in love lasts only about 18 months to three years at most. However, a study conducted by psychologist Bianca Acevedo and biological anthropologist Helen Fisher found that it's possible to keep love alive in a long-term relationship. The key was continuous communication.
Other studies have proven that a good relationship offers medical benefits of lower stress levels, reduced risk of Alzheimer's, and even improves cancer survival rates.
Furthermore, Joshua Uebergang emphasized the importance of communication, saying "Communication is the relationship. Communication connects people. You can do neither when communication is nonexistent." in his essay. And Marie Willsey also mentioned on it like this: "How do you keep a romance alive? If there's a special person in your life, you know how important good communication is to staying close and keeping the fires of passion burning. Good communication skills are essential, whether you've been together for two months or 32 years."
Here is a book named 'Maintaining relationships through communication: Relational, contextual, and cultural variations', highlighting the necessity of communication. In the work, Kathryn Dindia, one of the contributors, said that "to maintain a relationship, partners must communicate with one another... The end of the relationship occurs when people stop communicating... Communication is central to relationship maintenance." Take a closer look at the piece. It focused on the study of Kaplan, arguing the importance of communication. Kaplan(1975/1965) argued that "relationship partners need to understand what happens between them. Both individuals need to know what they think, feel, and expects of them." Here are excerpts from the piece:

Kaplan (1975/1976) listed two global and polar-opposite types of maintenance behaviors relevant to these three functions of relational maintenance. Maintenance-by-expression occurs when partners verbalize their feelings, their observations of the relationship, and the regulation of the interaction between them... Maintenance-by-suppression occurs when any direct discussion of mutual feelings, view of the relationship, or efforts to carry on in an orderly fashion is suppressed... Kaplan (1975/1976) argued that expressive maintenance is better able to sustain relationships of high involvement over time than maintenance-by-suppression. According to Kaplan, "expressive maintenance provides a way of preserving a strong emotional bond and, in general, promotes closeness and satisfaction in relationship" (p. 301).

Given the views of various figures, the condition of lasting romantic relationship is "interaction". Continuous dialogue protects your romantic relationship, remaining it as a contemporary love.

Bibliography

• http://music.naver.com/lyric/index.nhn?trackId=2121612
• http://book.daum.net/detail/book.do?bookid=KOR9788997827244
• http://www.oprah.com/relationships/How-to-Make-Romance-Last-Helen-Fisher-Love-Column_1
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• Daniel J. Canary, Marianne Dainton, "Maintaining Relationships Through Communication: Relational, Contextual, and Cultural Variations", Routledge, Jan 30, 2003 - Language Arts & Disciplines.