First Draft Confirmation

Given the views of various figures, the conditions of lasting romantic relationship is "interaction". Relationship is not formed only with passion and love of either only one side, and the absence of communication and care toward each other exacerbates it. Love for one another should be done at the same time, and if it does not pass to each other, relationship cannot be developed into a preferred relationship.

The problem is that people are not loving each other at the same time. They tend to believe that they themselves are in love with one another in contemporary period. Of course, it is just illusion. In accordance with Einstein’s “Theory of Relativity”, as I mentioned, two events, simultaneous for one observer, may not be simultaneous for another observer if the observers are in relative motion(Relativity of simultaneity). This is related to time dilation, in which moving clocks are measured to tick more slowly than an observer's "stationary" clock. And in his vision of universe, the laws of physics are the same for all observers in uniform motion relative to one another(principle of relativity).

Let's apply this theoretical information to romantic relationship. When it is applied on actual practical life, it emphasizes the necessity of keeping pace with each other. The 'pace' here can be applied on anything in real life. Starting from speed of a physical step, to the rate of all mental communion, to the timing of marriage and sex, in each field, if either one is faster or cannot keep up with the speed of the other side, their love is unable to be present at the same time anymore. Misaligned love flows the parallel line, and the arrow of love toward each other can not reach them.
Let's take a look at the lyrics accentuating the importance of keeping pace with one another.

I know that you've been calling me / And I'm happy that we met
Don't think that I'm not interested / I'm just playing hard to get

So much about this crazy game they call love / That I'm trying to understand
so could you be my best friend / Before you call yourself my man

Why can't I love you in slow motion / Take my time
Take away the pressure on my mind / Really get to know you
But rewind / Wanna love you in slow motion / Why can't I

You seem to know just what you want / And I like your confidence
Some things a girl should never rush / Cause if you do you hurt yourself

. . .

I'm too young for tears in the night / And it's too soon for this to be right
Don't wanna mess with your pride / The question is not when but why

. . .

- 'slow motion', by Karina(First Love, 2008.09.02).

But how to keep pace with the significant other? In other words, how can I know my partner's pace before conflict? The answer, of course, is continuous communication. When sticking to only the self-righteous opinions of themselves in the absence of interaction the difference between the rate of each other occurs, which would violate their time zone. As already stated in the narration part, dialogue is necessary in the successful continuation of relation, and accounts for a significant proportion. In this sense, the challenge given to all couples is to know how to do appropriate conversation and practice it.
Various views on the ways have already been presented by many previous studies, and I have only selected three commonly highlighted methods among those.
The first step is related to speaking skill. It is to make it habit of using "I" or "me" statements. Don't start an argument off by accusing your partner of making a mistake. If you say, "You always..." or "You never..." then your partner's guard will be up and he'll be less likely to listen to your perspective. Instead, say something like, "I've noticed that..." or "Lately, I've been feeling like..." Making the discussion centered around your feelings will make your partner feel less like he's being castigated and more like he's part of a productive discussion.

The second one, perhaps the most important step, is to listen to your partner. The necessity of listening have already been highlighted throughout the history. According to Bryant H. McGill, "one of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say", and also, there is an old maxim from native Americans: "listen, or your tongue will make you deaf." John M. Grohol also has included 'listening' into his steps to better communication.
To listen to your significant other is not difficult at all. Just put yourself in your partner's place. Use the power of imagination to fully envision what your partner's perspective might be in a given situation. Be aware that there might be factors you don't know about. When he or she is talking, putting yourself in his shoes can help you understand why your behavior, or the situation at hand, may be frustrating for him. When you're angry or upset, it's hard to see past your side of the argument, but this technique can actually help you reach a resolution faster.

The last step is to keep the peace. The factors affecting to proceeding conversation in a calm manner are various. First of all, you should just keep as calm as you can. Though you may not be able to be cool, the calmer you are, the more easily you will be able to express your feelings. So, if you're feeling furious in the middle of a conversation, or even livid before you bring up the issue, take a breather until you feel calm enough to start a productive discussion. Speak in a slow, even tone to articulate your ideas. Also, to maintain positive body language is necessary. Having positive body language can help set a positive tone to the discussion. Look your partner in the eyes and turn your body to him. You can use your arms to gesture, but don't move them so wildly that you start getting out of control. Don't cross your arms over your chest or your partner will feel that you are already closed off to what he has to say. Lastly, let him finish. Though he may say something completely outrageous or something that you feel like you just have to correct, don't jump in and interrupt him right in the middle of the discussion. Make a mental note of a point you want to address later and let your partner say everything he has to say. When he's done, it'll be your turn to respond, and then you can address his points one by one.